Monday, 30 January 2017

my generation

There was a beautiful film shown at Christmas called Ethel and Ernest, an animation about Raymond Briggs parents.  I loved everything about the film, I loved how they were house proud and you saw Ethel putting fresh flowers on the table every week. Also how they completely loved each other, they stayed married through thick and thin.  They had the war to deal with, sending their only child away to strangers, their own house getting blown up, there was so much to contend with.
The thing I took from this was how they dealt with the pressure, very keep calm and carry on. After the bomb raids they would sweep their front door step, and literally carry on with the meals for that day or the work that had to get done. There were times that you saw them upset and struggling, as it was extreme times they were having to face, but nothing was dramatised, which I feel was the reason people were able to pull through.
We are bombarded by the news, which for the most part is generally always negative, then on top of that we have the social media feeds which either are people commenting about their bad day or their good day which can also make us feel bad about ourselves if we are having a shit one, or ours doesn't match up to it!
 It is having a huge effect on my generation, it creates a ripple of depression. I find our social media has allowed us to see too much, to know too much, and it has affected our way of handling things and we blow things out of proportion.  And how we are there for each other these days has changed, you get a text are you ok? which don’t get me wrong is lovely, but the face to face interaction has gone.  Everyone is so busy, but also not busy at the same time. Checking in with the world is checking through your phone instead of actually checking in. I know I am not the first one to bring up these points and wont be the last. But I felt compelled to write about it as so many of my friends myself included are being affected in ways we don’t know how to handle. I have watched loads of friends who are my age or younger crack under the pressure close their businesses or like me burn out. And we blame ourselves because we aren't good enough.
So what do we do? all become hermits? no because wonderful things do come about from social media, look at the recent women's march in London those two organisers met through social media. And those crowds grew because the word was spread through social media.
It is trying to separate what is going on in your life from what is going on in others. I have turned off every notification, so I choose when to check in. I still check in too much, I have started carrying round a book again so when I am waiting for things I am reading instead of scrolling.
And its not just about filtering what you take in from your tablet, its people too. I have noticed more and more because of the pressure to be great right now is huge on social media, it filters into comments. I get it ALOT, for example, 'you are not represented by a gallery yet?' no but I have had a solo show in Japan and in Bath and they both sold out. But because I haven't got a gallery I am still not good enough, and my good points are disregarded. Do you see where I am going with this, something I am proud of,  I am made to feel I need to of done more, because people have this impossible view of success now, because we are bombarded with everything we should have done already.  So we get into this mind set because you could ignore a couple of comments, but when there are several this attitude sinks in. We are always striving for the next thing, the next goal, the next dream. And it creates this unhappy environment which I am desperate to break free from and I think a lot of my friends are too. How do we do it people?

Picture: still from Ethel and Ernest

Thursday, 26 January 2017


- I have been enjoying the happiness advantage so much. It is happiness through science. I love to understand why our brain works a certain way, and how we can change it to make our lives more productive and happy!

- if there is a Japanese tea room in the area, guarantee I will find it. I was up at the London contemporary art fair in islington and on their high street I stopped in Katsute 100. Beautiful teas and a beautiful place.

- even if I don't follow anyone on instagram any more. which is such a load off, let me tell you. I still like to check in now and then, on peoples pages that I always found interesting. I recently took a look at Amy Merricks page, as we have spoken once or twice as we both share a passion for plants. She has recently relocated to Japan and her journey she is on right now is one of wonder, and jealousy on my part.

- when I am up in London I try to cram in as much as possible to make up for the ridiculous price of the train fair. I went to both shows at the Tate Modern, Rauschenberg and Radical Eye. I am forcing myself to go to exhibitions which I am not to keen on. As I regret not going to the Agnes Martin show because I didn't know enough about her and that her work wasn't my style. Now I adore her work and regret that decision so much, ignorance basically. I used to love Rauschenberg as a child, and fell out of love for one reason or other. But there really is no other artist like him, his colour palettes and boldness still holds.

- other things I found inspiring was Obamama's farewell speech, and of course the woman march.

picture: Colin Gleadell

Thursday, 5 January 2017

power of no

definition of the word: resolution
- a firm decision to do or not to do something
the quality of being determined or resolute
the action of solving a problem or contentious matter

This year is my year of no. It sounds like I am getting off on a negative step, but actually the power of no I feel will bring me the right opportunities for me. By choosing what you let in, you actually value your needs first. My other thing is to not have FOMO (fear of missing out) thinking oh should I have done that? Best way to do that is get so busy with the next project you don't notice the ones you turned down.

'the more you say no to the things that don't matter, the more you can say yes to the things that do. This will let you live and enjoy your life - the life that you want.'
The daily stoic by Ryan Holiday and Stephen Hanselman

For all your other new year resolution needs, check out Fashion Me Nows very good post on everything from social media and grass is greener feelings.

Picture: found on pinterest, artist unknown to me.

Monday, 2 January 2017


- because I am always cold, I gravitate to all things that could keep me warm. I may look like an old women in my microwaveable feet warming boots, and this yuyu hot water bottle could add to that sexy look of mine. however I am really trying to stick to minimalist philosophy and buy less things, but I am sure there must be loop holes for things like this right?

- so much thats going on I find out via instagram, saw Hauser and Wirth Somerset had an exhibition of Louise Bourgeois called Turning Inwards. I managed to make it in the last week. I really am not a fan of the artwork that H&W show for reasons I will explain another time. But Louise B is someone I admire, she was so prolific, and moved through all mediums. It was a really good show made me want to explore etchings again.

- went to see Fantastic Beasts and where to find them, on New years day, can't say how much I loved this film.

- also want to go to see La La Land and a Monster Calls

- new years eve during the day I went for tea at Comins Tea in Bath. They are the only place I know outside of London who really go into the whole tea ceremony ritual. I believe tea ceremonies will be very trendy in 2017. Something quite lovely about watching your tea being made and going through a process. I then basically drinking none stop for hours while you chat with a friend, or this is where I go to write my letters to my pen pals. 

Picture : instagram wafflesoph